The simpler life – What living in the mountains teaches you!

A year of living in Himachal = hell lot of time for self-reflection and introspection! PC: Fatima Sana Shaikh
A year of living in Himachal = hell lot of time for self-reflection and introspection!
PC: Fatima Sana Shaikh

Most of you are probably tired of hearing about how I quit my job to move to the mountains. I’m not going to bore you with the same old talk again! The inspiration behind this post today, as Facebook memories has gently alerted me: I complete 1 year of living in Dharamsala, and 2 yrs since the day I first came here as a tourist. DOUBLE YAY!

I often receive emails and messages from curious readers, listing a hundred how’s and why’s about my new-found lifestyle. (I have answered the “how” in this post last year: How traveling made me an entrepreneur!)

Now about the why… I usually just avoid most of such messages, not because I don’t want to answer them, but because living in the mountains is more than anything I could explain with a 160 character limit. And like everything else in this world that’s worth its while, this lifestyle that looks all rosy and happy on the exterior, doesn’t come without its own set of challenges. However, today being the anniversary to my renewed happy state of being, I thought I should try and share why (for me) living in the mountains is no longer a matter of choice! At the risk of sounding pompous, I do hope this inspires at least someone to quit the rat race of the urban space for the allure of a simpler life!

 

What I’ve learned from my short blessed time in Dharamsala!

  1. Your work is not your life!
Stop running. Stop thinking so much. Just stop. Make time for things that matter!
Stop running. Stop thinking so much. Just stop. Make time for things that matter! PC: Fatima Sana Shaikh

I can’t emphasize this enough! When you’re raised in a metropolitan like Mumbai, every decision of your life, whether intentional or not, is about that perfect career! And in order to achieve that, you’re always on the run – a race, where you always want to win! So brainwashed are we by this glorified everyday grind, we seldom realize how far behind we lost our peace of mind. In fact, even the slavery becomes a competition – who stayed back in office after working hours, what a hardworking person!

Living in the mountains away from the infrastructural luxuries of the city made me take that blind-fold off! Your work is just a part of your life, it doesn’t define you, IT ISN’T YOUR LIFE! Sure, you have a job, who doesn’t? But that’s not why, or what, you are about! The freedom we boast of in our city lives is the most superficial invention of mankind. We take pride in being free, while in reality – we are tied down at every step of the way to the very lifestyle we believe is a mark of our freedom. Next time you’re introducing yourself to a stranger, try not including your resume in it, and notice how that makes you feel about yourself 🙂

 

  1. Value conversations
There's always time for a chai-time chat!
There’s always time for a chai-time chat! PC: Fatima Sana Shaikh

My friends here are my mirror to reality, to life beyond the superficial. They don’t care about which client has signed my agency, or what I’m blogging about. How many followers I have on twitter, or how many likes do my posts get on instagram. Trust me, a few of them don’t even know what twitter/Instagram/facebook is, and I had to convince some to join Whatsapp.

It’s amazing to be around people who hang out with you for you. Conversations form the base of every relation here. People invite you over for chai, not because you’re someone special, but just because it’s a cold evening and aunty feels like talking. They’re as curious and fascinated about you as you are about them. Whether it’s strangers on the bus, or acquaintances at a café – people always have time to talk, and that’s a beautiful quality which is slowly dying in the cities!

 

  1. Silence is beautiful
Silence speaks louder than words, it's true!
Silence speaks louder than words, it’s true! PC: Kieran Woodford

If first impressions really were last, I don’t think I could have survived life here! Noisy streets, traffic torture, loud music – you can’t take these away from any city. From there to complete, absolute, impenetrable silence of my humble abode tucked away in the middle of wilderness – that’s a transformation one can never prepare for. In my initial few weeks, I found the silence so jarring, I would play music on my phone, all day long, even while I was sleeping, just to have something going on. 4 months later, I left a perfectly comfortable house, village actually, and shifted to a place far away even from tiniest influence of tourists – just because there was construction nearby and I couldn’t tolerate the noise of stones being hammered. That’s how addictive the company of silence can be, and once you’re smitten, there’s no turning back!

 

  1. Nature is an addictive companion
Home - Himnoor - my little piece of heaven!
Home – Himnoor – my little piece of heaven! PC: Abhinav Chandel

I live in a mudhouse that has no brick or metal in its foundation (except in the washroom). A house that I have to mop with cowdung every fortnight to save it from falling apart! Our garbage is divided into wet and dry waste, the former is used as compost, latter is buried or burned (no other option). The water I drink comes from a mountain stream nearby. The milk comes from my neighbors cow. My meals almost always have home-grown veggies. The most regular visitors in my house are exotic moths, lizards, scorpions, rats – which also attract our neighbors cat – trust me, it’s a mad house! Getting my hands dirty in the farm is far more satisfying than any promotion / appreciation I have received in the past! My room is surrounded by so much greenery, someone smoking a cigarette would feel like air pollution.  When my aunt from Bombay came to visit me last month, her first reaction was “why the hell are you living in this jungle?” I took that as a compliment and smiled the biggest smile! Living in such close proximity to different elements of nature is addictive, a habit that teaches you how much we complicate our lives in the city, a healthier, happier addiction!

 

  1. Inspiration beats competition!
Volunteering with the lovely folks at Waste Warriors. The NGO takes volunteers for weekly clean-up treks to the most popular (and hence contaminated) places in Dharamsala.
Volunteering with the lovely folks at Waste Warriors. The NGO takes volunteers for weekly clean-up treks to the most popular (and hence contaminated) places in Dharamsala.

I always looked up to starlets and celebrities, my bosses and managers, my friends who were doing remarkably in their line of work. It was only when I moved here that I realized how shallow I was. I was taking inspiration from people I’d like to be one day, people I’d like to compete with – be that successful, that rich, that famous. When I moved here, I felt very proud of myself, I was breaking barriers, doing something no one in my circle had. And here, I saw reverse migration is huge and it’s incredible! They might not be huge in numbers, but the ideas these city runaways are trying to sow, will truly be a path-breaking one day! There are local women who were earlier victims of domestic violence and are now winning national awards for slapping patriarchy in the face, techies setting up camps here to make local lives easier with renewable power and recycled materials, westerners starting day schools and mesh for kids of construction workers, youngsters setting up libraries in the remotest villages of Leh-Ladakh, one school at a time! I’ve had the honor of meeting such incredibly inspiring souls, devoted with all their heart to making a difference, bringing a change – not because they’re getting paid to do it!

 

 

Challenges

  1. Pav bhaji and Kheema pav – Dharamsala has no pav and even after 2 years, that’s one thing I can’t forgive or forget!
  2. High-speed internet – Can’t do with, can’t do without. Fortunately or unfortunately, my work depends on the mercy of the internet Gods, and Devbhumi is quite weak in granted those signals!
  3. Auto rickshaws – When you have to pay 150 bucks for a mere 2km distance, you know you miss your Bombay rickshaw walas!
  4. Movies – Throw a girl from the Bollywood city, into a place that has no movie theatre. Not a single one! You have no idea how much that hurts.
  5. Family & friends – All the challenges mentioned above might be super materialistic, but that’s because life in Mumbai feels just that now! Perhaps the only true connection I feel to the city now is my family & friends!

 

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24 thoughts on “The simpler life – What living in the mountains teaches you!

  1. cool your thoughts are exactly what is expected from a human and seeing your love for the mountains is really awesome yaar. I too find myself lost in this rat race though being a pahadi guy i could relate what you mentioned above.Keep enjoying and actually i need to ”get a life ” you know what i mean…hate using social media when actually it doesnt mean that to me when i am in mountains but to have a life here in city i have to ..

  2. Bravo! Well done. Hearing your own calling is amongst the most challenging but satisfying things to choose!

  3. Nice experiment. We all run towards what we dont have. Mountain person runs to plains to have a JOB and city life. City persons runs towards mountains to get a Life. A healthy balance is what is reqd in our lives. If you can have a job / service that provides you both at your own convenience, that is a good solution to avoid the rat race called career.
    Regards.

  4. Excellent choice and I envy you for such a beautiful, carefree, natural, inspiring life style . My only question as a city dweller what you do for eking out a livelihood and make some money for survival

  5. I don’t know, whether U chosed it or it was written on ur destiny.. Wht I feel is U r replenishing, nd learning so quick…

  6. Fabulous life. I must say apart from the urge to do what you have done you also need the courage of conviction to take the plunge. Very much appreciate you for everything. God bless. Enjoy your life.

  7. Thank u .thank very much. I would not like to say why i am thankful to u but thanks and i am waiting new amazing post of u.

  8. Great Yaar….

    I have been thinking of doing it since long…and you simply did it…..

    Great. all the best and have a great Life ahead

  9. Really nice to hear your experience of mountains..it requires strong will power and patience to leave city life full of modern amenities and start new life at new place with very limited resources…
    Truely inspiring… Hats off to u… Keep on exploring…

  10. one recurring thought or question .. do you have some vocation or work that generates some income ? basically what i’m asking is whether you live off your savings or is there opportunity to earn while you are there ? hope i am not being intrusive, it was just a fleeting thought

  11. Wow! Perfect decision you made, which most of us thinking to move back sometime in near future, brave thing to do for city grown up girl like you. Enjoy the nature and simplicity of Himachal.

  12. Very inspirational. Certainly a life I will one day resort to, though my life isn’t a rat race. Yet. 😇 But with the kind of work I do, I’m grateful I’ll never be a part of that rat race.

    The challenges are absolutely worth it, just for the connection with nature and humans, the silence and solitude, the satisfaction of being productive in your own small passionate way. 😊

    The mountains! 💛

  13. Fantastic!

    Great to hear that you are living your dream. I still haven’t been to work that out …. the mountains have been calling, but I still haven’t gathered the guts to pack and move. That you have been able to do it such a young age makes me envious.

    Nature is intoxicating!!

  14. Was grt going thru ur article on dshala……who said that being close to nature or rather being a part of it was easy? …..but u luv d place coz u luv peace# serenity#tranquility #non hypocrisy. ….all found in quaint n tucked in places like dshala…..but with dshala figuring itself on d google map….n like u said….constructions @traffic jams@litter everywhere…..all due to influx of d tourists n population boom….i wonder for how long will d devbhoomi stay like yester yrs….prestine n untouched…..?
    …….I’m a localite…..n will definitely be comibg bk to my roots ….where else will i go……to find solace for my soul?

  15. Beautifully written Nidhi. In my mind, I could transport myself to Himachal at some instances. Love how you’ve talked about people running in cities all the time, and not even realizing it often.

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